Why? What? Who?

By far, the most common question I am asked is why I wanted to become a carrier or what made me want to be a surrogate. I really have no idea what first made me think of surrogacy . It was almost 15 years ago? I have a vague recollection of watching some day time talk show tat much have been discussing surrogacy and it sparked something in me. I loved being pregnant but Stef and I didn’t want anymore of our own.

So in October of 2004 I started looking into surrogacy agencies. In June of 2005 I met my first intended parents, Germans living in Sweden, and had the transfer in October. On June 23, 2006, I delivered twins! It was an amazing experience! At the time, I didn’t think about doing it again. I don’t really know why but I didn’t look back into another surrogacy until 2010 or so.

I was matched through that same agency 2 more times and had 2 more transfers but our attempts at pregnancy failed (I am very happy to say – both eventually went on to have successful journeys with other carriers!). In 2011 I was matched with a Chinese couple doing a tandem journey, meaning they were using 2 carriers at the same time. After another failed transfer, we were finally pregnant with a little boy! The other carrier was pregnant with a girl. Ruby and I became great friends throughout the journey and still talk today. We gave birth two weeks apart – Ruby in California and me in Texas. This journey was a little scary for my husband because it ended in an emergency c-section due to heart decels in the baby. The staff did not keep him informed and he was left wondering if his wife was dead or alive for 45 minutes with no word from anyone. Understandably he said this journey was going to be the last. 😦 After some time of coming to terms of not carrying again, I sold all of my maternity and and pumping supplies. About a month later, after I sold or gave away EVERYTHING, Stef walk into the front door (to this day I have the visual in my head of the moment) and said, “If you want to do another surrogacy, I want to support you.” WHAT!?!! I mean, YAY!!! (but a month earlier would have been way more convenient!)

I started looking into another journey. But… I hit a roadblock. The agency I had used up to this point suddenly wasn’t as supportive as it had been previously and I started getting the a bad feeling. During my previous journey, I had made a lot of local GC friends. We met often for lunch and had a Facebook group we were all very active in. In this group was an attorney, Simi Denson. One thing led to another and Simi, Amanda Smith and Myself decided we would start our own agency and PrimaVita Surrogacy was born!

Through our new agency, I met my next Intended Parents, Moshe and Gal. They are an Israeli couple living in New York City. We had first time transfer success and, after 36 hours of labor, I delivered a baby boy for them in October of 2016. We are very close. I visit them at least once a year and sometimes as many as 3 times a year! I truly feel like we are family.

Shalev and me in Dec 2019

So, I had carried for German parents and Chinese parents and for dads in NYC. What next? Someone local. In 2018 I met my 4th intended parents from Pflugerville (suburb of Austin, about 20 minutes from my house). They had just had a son from a previous surrogacy and were ready to try for another! This journey had a lot of ups and downs. Stef was diagnosed with cancer in the middle of the pregnancy and I ended up with gestational diabetes. Not ideal, to say the least. I could not have asked for more perfect parents for this journey, though. They were 100% the support we needed at the time. I will forever be grateful to them for being the people they were in that highly stressful, emotional time. Despite my OBs constant concerns of a big baby, I delivered a 7lb, 11oz boy for them in December 2018.

Me and Smithy 2019

So this brings us to the story of Garret and Ryan. My job at PrimaVita is to be the first contact for intended parents. The second time I talked with them on the phone I knew they were the ones. Garret was so freaking excited and hopeful about the process and wanted to know ALL of the things. Ryan was so nice and very thankful for the information I was giving. Since then we have met Kara, Ryan’s cousin and the egg donor, and Garret’s parents. We have seen home videos of them as kids and gone camping together and I have beat them both in board games! 🙂 I am so excited to be on this journey with them and hope with all of my heart that I will be able to deliver their son or daughter to them – and make Lawanda and Bill grandparents. ❤

Pretty sure this pic is after I beat them at this game!

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